It can seem that every Christmas commercial showcases the perfect family having the perfect Christmas with smiling faces and fancy houses and presents in abundance. Meanwhile the commercial of our own lives often includes the arguments and frustration, the one family member that tends to start drama, the struggle to maintain a budget and the Turkey that is still frozen. The reality doesn’t sell products. So how do you cope? How do you find joy in the chaos?
Here’s a few simple tips that might help keep the merry in your holidays or at least keep the grinch at a distance.
1. Set reasonable expectations. Don’t pressure yourself to have the best of everything and that everything goes exactly according to your plan. Instead have a general idea of what will happen specific to what you will do and be okay with that. Others will do what they do - you can’t control that.
2. Plan what you can ahead of time. Last minute shopping and cooking and wrapping quickly can become overwhelming and frustrating. If you pace as many things as possible out over days and weeks those last few days won’t seem as stressful.
3. Create a budget and stick too it. Be honest with yourself about what you can afford and hold yourself accountable. Your stress will be lower when you are not worried about debt.
4. Focus on traditions and add new ones. Your children will likely not remember that toy under the tree but they will remember you reading a Christmas story as you snuggle under a blanket drinking cocoa. They will remember leaving cookies for Santa. They will remember times shared with you. Your love is the greatest gift.
5. Take breaks from the festivities - a walk, some flag football, or just a few moments of silence staring at the tree can calm the nerves.
6. Finally remember the meaning and focus on the love. In the end it is all that really matters.
Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and happy holiday season
The mental health team at HicksStrong
Are you interested in knowing how to “hack” Thanksgiving? Well you have come to the right
place! Holidays are time consuming and for many are very stressful! Here are some simple tips
on how to make the big day a breeze.
Hack it, How to:
1. Set the table the day before. This is always something my family did and it made life so
2. Prep your vegetables ahead of time. Slice, dice and chop away. Storing each in a container
so you can heat, dump and go.
- Need to turn it up a notch? Make them the day before but leave them a little firmer so when
you reheat them they are perfectly cooked.
3. Crock pots are a beautiful thing. You can make everything including the turkey in one of
4. Skip the potato peeler. Yes, potato skin of all potato varieties is perfectly edible and is a
great source of fiber. Just be sure to give them a scrub before you boil them. Smashed red
skinned garlic mash anyone? YUM.
5. If your friends and family are like mine, they are always asking what they can bring. A
great tip is to give everyone a dish to prepare. You take care of the bird and literally the rest
comes to you.
6. Make sure you bird is defrosted in time. Set alarm reminders on your phone to make sure
you put that bad boy in the refrigerator in time! The USDA recommend one day for every 4-5lbs
of weight. So if your turkey is 24lbs it will take about 6days to thaw. Now that’s a lot of turkey!!
Michael Hicks - Co-Founder HicksStrong Inc.
I had no idea what to expect this Veterans day weekend. All I knew was we had built a relationship with the NY Giants over this last year and we had secured a Hug Mug party with players and staff on Veterans day. We had 13 Volunteers of which 4 are veterans with us to help us set up and run the event. It was amazing to see the support in action. Everyone around us was getting the room set up it was like that scene in Fantasia where Mickey gets the whole room cleaning then it gets out of control... Well minus the out-of-control part. We have built a very well-oiled team of supporters to help keep our mission moving forward and we are so grateful.
Then out of the corner of my eye, I see Coach Brian Daboll and I realized ok this is happening. Before I knew it we were in full HicksStrong Hug Mug swing. Players were asking questions about what we do while they took time to paint a Hug Mug for a service member to receive just two days away from game day.
Shane Lemieux - OL, Daniel Jones - QB, Justin "Jelly" Ellis -DL, Ryder Anderson - DL, Stirling Shepard - WR and so many staff members painted HicksStrong Hug Mugs for our service members to remind them they are not alone.
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